Staggering your retirement date from your spouse may benefit you both

Many working couples dream of the day when they can retire and sail off into the sunset together. However, couples should consider whether retiring at the same time is the wise choice. There are both financial and emotional ramifications to retiring simultaneously compared to having one spouse work longer than the other. It’s a good idea to start thinking about these issues earlier than you may realize, when there is still time for each partner to map out a trajectory of how and when they’d like to leave the workforce and how those two plans mesh.


  • Staggering retirements can help couples boost their total retirement assets while decreasing the number of years they draw on them.
  • Couples need to consider health insurance options if retiring before one or both of them are eligible for Medicare.
  • Retiring at different times may also be beneficial for couples’ emotional and relationship health.

Why Shouldn’t Couples Retire Together?

“Unless couples are the same age, and in the same health, it usually makes more sense for one person to retire earlier. There can be both financial and relationship benefits,” says Morris Armstrong, registered investment advisor, Armstrong Financial Strategies, Cheshire, Conn. Financially speaking, the advantages are threefold. When one spouse works longer and delays the age they claim Social Security benefits to past full retirement age, the amount of those benefits will increase. In addition, the continued income from the working spouse gives the couple a few more years to save for retirement. Finally, a spouse who works an extra three to five years will likely have a shorter period to need their retirement assets, allowing for larger withdrawal amounts each year.

The Financial Impact

“A delay of five years is a hugely positive move for couples who are just on the edge of having enough money saved, for those who have a family history of longevity, or for those who simply need to work five additional years to get to ‘enough,’” says Jane Nowak, CFP®.

Larry and Sally Griffen are both 60 years old. They each earned an average of $40,000 per year during their working years. Both come from families with longevity, and each expects to live to age 90. Larry and Sally both plan to retire at age 65. At their current rate of saving, the couple will have $300,000 of joint retirement assets by that time. When each reaches full retirement age (for their birth year), at age 67, they will be entitled to full Social Security benefits. The Griffens expect to receive $24,137.75 per year in retirement from their account, with a depletion of assets by age 90. If they claim Social Security benefits at 67, Larry and Sally can each expect an annual benefit of approximately $18,850. This would bring their total annual retirement income up to approximately $61,837.75 per year, a roughly 30% drop in income from their $80,000 pre-retirement income. But if Larry were to work for another five years, he could step up his contributions to accumulate another $30,000 in his retirement plan and would draw on it for five fewer years.

This example clearly illustrates the financial impact that just a few more years of work can have on a couple’s retirement. The triple power of increased Social Security benefits, increased retirement savings and the reduction of time over which to draw on those savings can mean the difference between a financially secure retirement and one that is marked by financial hardship.

Impact on Health Insurance

Another major factor to consider is health insurance. If, in the previous example, Larry continues to work for another five years, he can keep his health coverage provided through his employer, which may be more or less costly than Medicare.

Individuals become eligible for Medicare at age 65.2 If spouses are not the same age, the younger spouse will need to find alternative coverage if they both retire when the older spouse is 65.

Emotional Reasons for Retiring Separately

Retirement can be an emotionally complex transition. Losing one’s sense of identity through work can be a major adjustment for some, while others find it relatively easy. When a working couple retires simultaneously, they suddenly find themselves at home together all the time, without the separation of work that they may have become accustomed to. This sudden shift can disrupt a couple’s established relational boundaries. As such, it may be easier for couples if only one spouse goes through this process at a time, especially if either spouse expects to have difficulty adapting to the new lifestyle.

This gives at least one of the spouses (perhaps the one who is expected to have more difficulty with the process) some time alone to begin creating a new identity while some elements of their relationship, including separation during the day, remain stable. If both spouses retire at the same time, the emotional impact on each partner and on their relationship as a couple can create friction that might otherwise have been avoided. If both spouses struggle to find new paths for themselves, they may end up taking their frustrations out on each other.

On the other hand, many people look forward to activities like travel during retirement that they won’t be able to do if one spouse is still working. So it may not make sense to delay the second retirement for more than a few years at most. That is one of the issues it makes sense to talk through before and during the process.

The Bottom Line

Retirement is a complex and expensive phase of life. When couples stagger their retirement dates, they can reap financial and emotional rewards that should make this vital transition easier. Life may, of course, shape which partner ends up retiring first and change the plans the couple made when they were younger. One person’s job situation may shift, or health issues or problems with other family members could intervene.

“A staggered retirement date is a great idea for financial and marital health reasons,” says certified financial planner Kristi Sullivan, Sullivan Financial Planning, LLC, Denver, Colo. “Financially, it allows you to more slowly draw down assets in early retirement. If anyone is under the age of 65, the working spouse can hopefully carry medical insurance to bridge the gap until Medicare eligibility. Also, not retiring at the same time can let couples find their groove in retirement without being on top of each other right away.”

Whether you decide to stagger your retirements or stop working simultaneously, thinking about it in advance will make this process easier.